Divorce: Why It Can Be Positive

Natasha Fidler, Entertainment Editor


  Divorce has always been seen as the end of someone’s happiness. However, historically, divorce has sparked change for women’s roles in the household and can be positive.

  New York Times editorial writer Claire Miller wrote the article “The Divorce Surge is over, But the Myth Lives On” speaking on the long terms effect of divorce in the 1970s.

  “The rapid rise in divorce during the 1970s and early 1980s was an anomaly. It occurred at the same time as a new feminist movement, which caused social and economic upheaval,” Miller said.      

  Personally, I was raised to be a strong intelligent women, who does not need to rely on a man to be successful in life. This ideal was taught to me by my mom was a product of divorce. In the late 1970s my mother’s parents divorced, which was barely common in that time. Over time, she learned divorce may have been the best option for her family. Not only did it lead her a healthier home life, but she also realized an important lesson: a woman needs to be able to take care of herself.

Many people become fearful because of the fact women are taught to be independent they will not want to be a part of relationships. That fear is invalid; women should be equals with their spouse, not dependent on them. Everything I have been taught about self-love comes from my mother, and she has been married for 25-plus years.

  Divorce may be known for its negative aspects, such as effects on children. However, for some couples and children it can be the healthiest option. Abusive relationships are not healthy for either party involved, especially the children watching it. Divorce is a way to legally separate yourself from that person.  Children can grow and learn in two separate, peaceful households compared to one abusive household. Previously, even for women in abusive relationships, divorce was difficult. In late 1969 the Divorce Reform Act was passed, and couples had to be seperated 2-5 years before legally divorcing.

  Another important positive aspect of divorce is in the 1970s: it was one of the leading causes for women to start working and become educated. Divorce fueled women to be independent and stand up for their own rights. Without this institution, women may have never had the chance to become educated or begin their own careers. People need to be healthy and stable independently before they join a relationship. These women were never given the chance to be independent, and once they finally had this chance, women made history.

   Divorce is not the ruination of a marriage, it is the beginning of a revolution.